HUNGRY!!!!! Weighing-In…

weighing-in-2-24-17So for the last 8 months I’ve been hitting the gym.  I’m TIRED! It’s been a long journey and I still have ways to go.  I wanted to start this New Year with a quick weigh-in update.

I have no problem working out.  I actually have learned to enjoy it. I love competing with myself to break my own records on certain equipment, I still hate the stair climber. My downfall…FOOD! I love to eat, it’s what has kept my friendships going, the fact that we all love to eat.  Not just food, rich food, unhealthy food, touch your soul type foods. Why me?! Why can’t I love tree bark and salad?!

So what am I going to do? Will I have to give up the foods I love so that me and my island get-a-way can get along?! I think not!  I’ve learned what I need to do is live in moderation when it comes to food. I can still enjoy the foods I love and explore new foods as long as it’s in moderation.

As food has been in abundance over this winter season, I remain focus.  I might have missed a few gym appointments, but I watch what I eat and continued to make progress.  I can do this and by the time I slip on that bridesmaids dress, every curve will be just right.

Send me some tips. What’s your fitness routine? How are you planning to live a healthier lifestyle?


Mommy’s Busting Out!

terry-nikHey Hot People!  Forgive me my thoughts are all over the place.  I need to tell y’all what happened and deliver this message to the hot mommies out there that need to bust out.  On Wednesday last week I met Terry McMillan (SCREAMS!!!) in case you are clueless, Terry (we met had a formal introduction I’m calling her by her first name now) wrote Waiting To Exhale & How Stella Got Her Groove, along with other novels but these are the most popular because they were turned into movies.  ANYWAY!  Met her, got to take this pic and get my book signed.  But it almost didn’t happen…

The event to meet Terry was an hour and some minutes away from my house, it started to snow and I was like, I’m just going to stay home, no point in driving in this crazy weather.  I was preparing to put my pajamas on when something in me was like STOP, you need to go, you need to get out! So I quickly got cute, fed my children, secured their sitter and was out the door.  I was late but I didn’t care I was going, then I realized I was going alone.  There were no friends in the car with me, no significant other by my side, not my kids or the dog, I was out in the snow going to do something I wanted to do. I had to pause for a minute I was in shock! So often I want to do things, but I’ll change my mind at the last minute because nobody else wants to, I’ll look pitiful if I show up alone.  Do you have those thoughts?  Have they stopped you from doing things you love all because you may have to do them alone?

NO MORE! I am busting out, I work too hard, take care of too many people to shelter myself.  Mommy it’s time for you to enjoy your life, whether it’s with family, friends, or alone.  And you know what, the more times you do it, the easier it becomes.  No longer will you opt out of things that bring you joy just because you may have to enjoy them alone.  It’s time to really embrace your freedom (when you get it) and live in the moment.

So I’m going to do it, I’m going to live a fabulous life of alone time.  Mommies, our children are well taken care of, our homes, and multiple other jobs we do are handled, why not do what you want to do and sometimes you may have to do it alone, but it’s okay.  Would you rather miss out on a great opportunity all because you are alone or would you rather get in your car, turn the volume all the way up and rock out to do something you love.  Girl I’m gone, hope y’all start to have fun cause I am!

Hot Mom, Hot Topics: 20 Things Singles Don’t Want to Hear on Valentine’s Day & The Response You May Receive

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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  1. You’ll find someone someday.
    (response: Don’t you think I already know that!)
  2. Mr./Mrs. Right is being prepped for you.
    (response: Well make sure they’re well done this time)
  3. I’ve got just the right person for you, my niece/nephew is single too.
    (response: Does my shirt say desperately seeking?!)
  4. When are you getting married?
    (response: If I knew that, I would have sent out “Save the dates” by now to avoid you asking this question, again!)
  5. Whatever happened to so and so?
    (response: If you don’t see them around then apparently we ain’t together!)
  6. You’re not getting any younger!
    (response:**ding, ding** You are correct! I don’t suffer from that Benjamin Button disease)
  7. You can always get a pet.
    (response: Well just go ahead put me in the housecoat, slippers, cigarettes, bonnet and deem me that cat lady)
  8. I pray you find someone soon.
    (response: While you’re praying, please ask for deliverance…

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Being Nanekia…From Darkness to Light

darkness-to-lightIn case you have been hiding under a rock…BEING MARY JANE IS BACK!!! The Being Nanekia series is inspired by the show and I’m so happy to take a little time from mommy topics to just be me and let you inside my thoughts. I’m always growing, always becoming self-aware, which can sometimes be a real pain, growth hurts so good.  Recently in doing some self-reflection I came to the realization that I had been living in the dark about a situation and was so ready to receive some light.  Here’s my thoughts on the darkness and the light…

When you allow someone to plant a lie in your life you are allowing the darkness to grow.  We sometimes know it’s a lie or we later gain the knowledge of the lie and instead of calling it what it is we allow that planted lie to grow.  We actually nurture it because we don’t call it what it is, cut off it’s roots and let it die.  This growth takes up space in our mind not allowing any light in because we are consumed by it’s darkness.  Some are content to live in that darkness, it’s comfortable, they’ve grown accustomed to how the darkness feels and can see nothing beyond it.  The truth may have been revealed to them several times but because they are wrapped up in the darkness they can’t see it.

Imagine that, living in such darkness only being able to express fake light because in the pit of who you are the seed of this lie is still growing.  I’m a faithful believer in the power of prayer.  So, if you pray to be brought out of the darkness into the light be prepared , it’s going to be scary and sometimes painful.  Think about it, it’s huge leap to move from darkness into light.  But wouldn’t you rather live in light (truth)?!

(To be continued…)

Black History…Black Love

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! In celebration of my readers and Black History month, let’s view some Black Love.  Thanks to all the participants!


The Aimiuwu’s


The Cannon’s


Brooks & Tenisha


The Moore’s


The Bumper’s


Angela & Rob


The Carroll’s


The Dickson’s


Aliece & Marlon


Michelle & Curtis


The McCary’s


The Newell’s


The John’s

Happy 13th Birthday Jamiel!

nik-and-jamielThe hottest young man I know is 13 years old today.  Where has the time gone.  It feels like yesterday I was holding him at a distance while he puked all over my clothes.  This has been an amazing journey getting to 13, so much has happened.  I love my son beyond  words and he loves me back despite the fact that he and I both know I can be a little insane.

jamiel-4Like every parent when they’re expecting a baby you have hopes and dreams for that little person you created.  You’re curious to see who they will become. I felt this way as soon as I saw his ultrasound picture, there was no hiding it, I was having a boy. I was ecstatic and then scared.  13 years ago the slaying of the black man wasn’t as exposed as it is now.  We knew it happened but it appeared hidden.  In all my excitement I also found fear, fear of raising a black man in a society that I knew feared him without even knowing him. To top it off how was I, a woman, suppose to raise a man, everyone is always saying a woman can’t teach a man to be a man?!  And you know what? They are right! So despite my fear I decided to embrace, store up all the love I thought the world would try to take from him so that I could give it to him tenfold. I also decided I could not teach him to be a man, but I would raise him to be a great human being.  Someone that cares for others, has a heart for God, has a passion and a purpose.  You know what?  He is turning into one amazing human being!

I do recognize however that a man has to teach a man things that I will never experience.  So in this moment I want to thank each of those men that have stepped up and embraced that duty.

Jamal & John- his granddads love him fearlessly, they have instilled in him the importance of being a man of his word and doing what is right despite others thoughts

Anthony (Chef)- has taught him that a man stands up for himself and defends his family

Uncle June- embraces him and fills in the gap

Uncle Craig- taught him it’s okay to be weird, embrace your weirdness and be true to yourself.

Cousins (Moore/Washington/Harrison Family) – too many to name, but they’re always there lifting him up

Keith Hines- Jamiel was able to hang out with Keith over a summer when he attended camp and Keith worked in my office.  During that time they bonded, when Jamiel needed a recommendation letter Keith wrote the most amazing tribute to my son, and even though Jamiel didn’t win the election his confidence was boosted.

Professor Richard “The Gorilla” Osborne- from the time The Gorilla found out I was having a son he noted Jamiel would be exceptionally different, from then on he gave me toys for Jamiel to try out, “CK (my nickname), he won’t play with normal toys, he’s going to need to be challenged!” He was right, he told Jamiel don’t follow the norm and Jamiel is not normal (lol, he gets it from his mom)

Professor Simon Peck- the strangest relationship ever witnessed, they connected over sweater vest and bow ties. He’s encouraged Jamiel to think outside the box, to be a trendsetter.  Professor Peck owes me $330 for bow ties and sweater vest, just kidding, but he made Jamiel think about his appearance and how he came across to people, he made him think about how the world viewed him even before speaking to him.

This is just some of the village, if you feel missed charge it to mom brain and not my heart.

Who’s in your village encouraging and supporting your children?  Don’t forget to thank them.